The grass always seems greener on the other side. Few know this better than women who make a choice between their family and careersSneha Mashetty email@example.com
You are happy with your modest Maruti 800 but when the neighbour gets a Swift suddenly a wish to buy a Swift crops up, same is the case with housewives and working women when we asked them how they feel in their respective fields. We understood that women in both the fields feel the grass is greener on the other side. Read on to know what the scenario is.
Gurubir Kaur , homemaker, says, “Today when I look back in time I regret not working as I miss the financial freedom that every working woman has.”
When we asked if she missed anything by choosing to be a housewife this is what she had to say, “I miss having my own circle of friends and hanging out with them. If I was a working woman I would have demanded an off on a weekend and said adios to the kitchen.”
She also shares the reason why she was in a dilemma whether to work or no after marriage, “In our times working women were not readily accepted and then later on I had kids, I dedicated all my time to raising my children which was the most important thing for me. I wish I had chosen to work and managed my time between home and office.”
When we ask what she feels the ideal time for work would be this is what she had to say, “I would be fine with anything from 10am to 5pm as I would be there for my kids once they back home from school and college, then I would not miss on anything it would have been a perfect blend of office and home.”
Tripthi Sen (above), Vice-Principal of Radcliffe International School, shares her thoughts on being a working woman. “I definitely have the financial freedom I need, but being a mother of two kids what I miss the most is my kids.” She also shares the guilt that she experiences when she not there for her family, “I feel so guilty when I am not there with my children when they have exams as I know what children go through during exams being a vice-principal. I feel so bad when I am not a major part of their upbringing.
“I am sure that every working woman would agree with me because nothing means more for a woman than her kids. To compensate for the time I’m not at home I try and do as much as I can.”
She explains why she took up this job. “Since I wanted to support my family financially, I took up this job. Now when I see children at school, I am reminded of my own.”
But Tripthi feels a bit confused now. She took up a job to be able to provide her children with everything they needed but now she is torn between being the just another working woman and wanting to be there for her kids.
The situation is very confusing and chaotic as both have their pros and cons, for all the mothers out there in dilemma about what their next step should be just sit back relax and ask your heart what it wants to do the most, then there would not be any looking back.
After all life is all about living it your way.
5 ways to decide to work or not
- Talk to your family members and see what they have to say about it.
- Make sure the timings of the workplace are according to your needs.
- Know your priorities before jumping into anything.
- Listen to your heart and do what it says.
- Logic is the key.