Photographer Shreya Sen gives voice to the secret fear on the minds of most single women today — is time running out for them?Shreya Sen email@example.com
In the past few decades we have been noticing that women in urban cities in India are steadily moving towards being career centric. That does not necessarily mean that the idea of being a housewife or a family woman has been shunned, but it is the age where women are equally qualified and exposed to ample job opportunities allowing them to be on par with men. With these growing opportunities, the need and thirst has grown to reach one’s own potential, contribute, make a difference and most importantly be financially secure.
I have a whatsapp group on my phone of friends from my childhood; we went our separate ways but thanks to technology came together again. One is currently in New York working in Goldman Sachs, the other is studying her MBA from a reputed university in Paris and one is working in a multinational company in India. All four of us fairly successful, driven, individualistic and three of us are single. The chat is our digital therapy session; we have various discussions through the day or week and our topics range from men to politics to television shows to books to heartbreaks, bad bosses and various existential angst. Of course, one of the recurring discussions is when will we find the one?
The point of me mentioning this is that even if women are moving towards building their careers they still want that balance, love and that someone who they can come back to the end of the day. Also after a certain age, you look around and all your friends are slowly getting married, so suddenly even if you are comfortable with how life is going, the questions start surfacing at the back of the head, “Is there something wrong with me?, “Will I end up alone?” “What if men want only younger women?” “What if I have to quit my job or move cities?” I guess it is the just moving to a similar curve as men, where men build their career till they are around 29-30 and then think of settling down. The difference being, men at 30 are seen as attractive, mature and successful, however women not married at 29-30…Well, let’s just say women are not viewed in the same manner; society seems to have a double standard. But at the end of the day, men or women, however successful we want to be; most of us still do not want to end up alone. All that success and money seems difficult to enjoy when we do not have a companion. It still is a choice; there is nothing wrong in choosing to be single and live life on our own terms. But we are meant to be social animals at least most of us are and we have grown up with the gift of loving families. Wouldn’t we want that too?