Of course, every mother loves her child. But how much love is too much?
“I miss you sonny, it’s been three hours since we last spoke!” Your ‘ladla’ Duppu, Monu, Chintu or Sonu (or all of them) are definitely the cynosure of your eyes, we agree.
But dear mothers, it’s time you accepted that they have all grown up, and started to walk on their own feet! And more, under your able ‘culinary leadership’, have also developed a distinct little paunch to show they come from khaate peete ghar.
And some 20 odd years later, they have also landed up a job in the Hitech city too! So isn’t it time to wean them off your love? Your constant calls to ‘just check’ what your little baby is doing is, let’s accept it, is more a ‘mother-bother’ phenomenon than anything else. Give your love a break and if you skipped noticing it, your sons have turned to men! Yes!
A suitor for dear daughter
We can understand the chaati pe bhoj syndrome that our Indian mothers exclusively ‘suffer’ from. And this peculiar disease or let’s say unease does not warrant for seeking suitors in every baaju waali galli ka ladka. We say, dear mothers, you should wake up to the fact that your dainty daughters know when it is right for them to settle down with the right man, and even better, who the right man is. So next time you are out socialising at a dinner party along with your daughter, try not to ask too many details about that handsome boy with the neatly combed hair. Not unless you are an undercover FBI agent or a mole in the Soviet Intelligence please.
Need to pick some clothes for my ‘little boy’
Once upon a time, being a helpless and dependent ma ka ladla was oh so cute and acceptable. Unfortunately, your little sonnies have grown up since, and mommies have just remained mommies. How else would you explain their need to be part of every shopping escapade their son sets out to? From choosing the clothes, to the bride, to deciding when it’s time to ‘pop the good news’, mommies are the omnipresent influences in many ‘little boys’ lives. We think it’s time to take it easy, and let them decide what to do, when to do, how to do, and spare them of the urge to tell them what underwear to wear and when!
Having said all of that, we will all still agree that as troublesome as they might be, we cannot imagine a world without mothers.
Mothers who defined their kids
Queen Elizabeth II
Elizabeth learnt all she had to from her mum and in fact went a degree further. She still calls the shots in this family. From making Prince Charles toe the line to keeping errant grandsons under control, the Queen does it all.
She was England’s favourite daughter. Even after her untimely death, the sons had to bear the brunt of their mother’s popularity. So much so, that William’s wife Kate is still under pressure to fill in the shoes of her famous mother-in-law’s reputation.
After the assassination of Rajiv Gandhi, she took charge of both the Gandhi house. Both her children Priyanka and Rahul take their values from her even now. Rahul for that matter is often called Mamma’s boy.
Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis
She once said,“If you bungle raising your children, I don’t think whatever else you do well matters very much.”How she helped her kids Caroline and John cope with their father’s death is what earned her the respect of the entire nation.