I was faced with an interesting case of double standards this week that left me scratching my head for a few days until I finally realised, life isn’t always black and white but rather various shades of grey.
Cheating. A dirty word to be sure but why is it if someone cheats on a friend of ours we become all indignant and enraged but if it’s the friend that has someone else on the go, we’re likely to high-five them and congratulate them for ‘keeping their options open’?
Equally there are those who will turn a blind eye to having an affair with a married person but should that married person then happen to being seeing someone else as well they are a low life cheating rat.
Don’t get me wrong, I am in no way condoning the practice of cheating. In fact I am in full agreement that it is absolutely wrong…in theory. But in practice, whether we like it or not, it’s something that happens all the time all over the world. In fact a cynic might say that as a general rule cheating on a partner is probably more common than staying faithful, some are just better at getting away with it than others.
We are taught to believe that we will meet a partner that we will want to spend the rest of our lives with but if that was really the case why would we be so genetically disposed to finding so many different people attractive throughout our lifetimes.
Surely if we were supposed to stay with just one person for the rest of our lives, that person would be put in our paths at some point and then no one else would ever appeal to us again. After all dolphins, gibbons, wolves and swans, all mate for life, so why not for us humans? Did I ever come up with an answer to my dilemma? Yes. What’s good for the goose isn’t always good for the gander.