Marriage is a great institution, but I’m not ready for an institution yet – Mae West
As I mentioned before, living the single life doesn’t mean never getting involved in a relationship. In fact, relationships are vital to being single because without them singlehood would quite frankly suck! The first thing my friends ask me when they hear I’ve met a new man is how long he’s here for. They seem to think that a relationship that doesn’t have a future is bad and don’t understand my tendency for short-term relationships.
It’s not as if I make a deliberate choice to date men who aren’t going to be in for the long-haul and to be honest, it used to frustrate the hell out of me too, but the more I’ve come to enjoy living the single life, the more I can see the benefits of short term relationships. Firstly, I don’t need to worry about whether Mr Right-Now ticks all the boxes I would want in the person I want to spend the rest of my life with and secondly, if I know that the relationship isn’t going anywhere there is a lot less pressure to be the so called ‘perfect girlfriend’.
The beauty of Mr Right-Now is that he can be that fun but flaky guy you’ve always wanted to date but avoided like the plague to prevent a broken heart. If you have it clear in your mind from the get-go that it’s only for a few weeks/months, letting go is much easier than a break-up from a long-term relationship.
Of course, on very rare occasions, that short-term relationship throws you a curve ball and that man you thought was going to be good for a few laughs actually turns out to be the man of your dreams and then, to be honest, you’re screwed but at the end of the day real happiness comes along so rarely in life that it’s worth grabbing onto with both hands and embracing it for however long it lasts.
Category: Family & Relationships